healing


  • The North Star 

    The North Star 

    There is a star in the northern sky that has outlasted empires, storms, and time itself.  The North Star.  Constant, unwavering, a fixed point when all else seems to drift away. Sailors once trusted it with their lives, wanderers with their return, lovers with their hope. I’ve spent a lifetime looking for my North Star.…

  • The House Hunt that Reminded me of Love!

    The House Hunt that Reminded me of Love!

    All day, I knew I was standing at the edge of a big life change. But it didn’t feel real. Honestly, it still doesn’t. At least, not until the toilet broke and the only person who could fix it… was me.Welcome to homeownership. And here’s the wild thing: it’s beautiful. Because this house isn’t just…

  • Gossip: the Original fake news

    Gossip: the Original fake news

    I am no stranger to gossip.  I grew up on a really small neighborhood block. The streets lining the school in a perfect square and we would see dozens upon dozens of children walking from their homes to the school yard.  My brother and I were often a spectacle – latch-key kids with clear hand-me…

  • Staying Far Too Long

    Staying Far Too Long

    For her, it wasn’t the cheating that finally broke her. That had her wanting to leave the relationship. Yes, it hurt. Yes, it was devastating. But she loved him, and she wanted to believe him. She clung to the denials — It never happened. It would never happen. Even when she discovered the second time,…

  • On the Brink

    On the Brink

    The text said this “I will head to the UP for two weeks of camping. Then I will begin the journey of reinventing myself, with a lot of mindful focus on the present. I suspect at some time I will want to connect and seek reassurances that I was never going to fix things given…

  • A Proof Copy, AND a Kindness

    A Proof Copy, AND a Kindness

    “I cannot honestly believe that he is reacting in maliciousness.” It’s the sentence I’ve repeated to myself over and over again—out loud, in quiet moments, and in journal entries that no one else will read. Because I can’t find it in myself to see him in that light. I’ve seen hate before. I’ve seen true…

  • Restored, Not Perfect

    Restored, Not Perfect

    There are a lot of exciting things happening in my life right now – and honestly, I feel incredibly blessed. Grateful in ways I can’t always put into words. One of the biggest things I’m currently working on is buying a home. And let me just say – it’s about time! As the kids and…

  • Hand In Hand

    Hand In Hand

    The hardest part of healing is recognizing that love and hate go hand in hand. We have this notion that when we hate someone, we suddenly no longer love them.That could not be more wrong. Love, authentic love, does not simply disappear when we are wronged. It doesn’t vanish the moment betrayal enters the room. …

  • The choice

    The choice

    I ran into a friend today- one of those warm, familiar faces who always brings a little light into your day. After the usual catching up, she asked with genuine curiosity, “How are you doing?” I smiled and replied with my go-to: “Good.” But this time, she paused. Tilted her head. Looked at me a…

  • The Gift of Shame

    The Gift of Shame

    “Shame corrodes the very part of us that believes we are capable of change.” Brene Brown The very title of this article can sound like an oxymoron – however the more I talk to people, the more I believe we do not allow shame to be the catalyst for change that it can really be. …